Elopement or Wedding?

Elopement or Wedding?

Elopement Or Wedding?

I know that the question “Elopement or Wedding” is gaining a lot of attention in a few of the last years. Not even mention after 2020 and pandemic. 

According to Wikipedia, Elopement is often used to refer to a marriage conducted in a sudden and secretive fashion, usually involving a hurried flight away from one’s place of residence together with one’s beloved with the intention of getting married.

Another definition says that Elopement is “to run away secretly with the intention of getting married, usually without parental consent.” But with more millennials eloping than ever before, an entire industry has sprung up around the brides rejecting the traditional big wedding.

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And although I’m a pretty old-school chick, I really like the idea of Elopement! I just received an email from a friend, and I really had to stop and think about it for a while. And then I decided to write this article.

She wrote: I’m sure the “elope” word has come up a lot for many brides as we’re wedding planning and running into drama, frustrations, or getting sticker shocked at how much everything costs. But my fiance recently said something kind and put our wedding in a way that I never thought about.

All our friends and our family from all over the country and the people we love and care about most in our lives will never all be in the same room together. Well, unless it’s for our wedding or our funeral. This is our one chance, while we are alive, for all the people from different chapters of our lives to meet each other, to celebrate us, and for us to feel their love all at once.

So whenever I think about throwing my hands up and going to the courthouse, I try to look forward to this part of the wedding the most.

Please don’t go into debt for it. Don’t ruin relationships for it. Don’t compromise your mental or physical well-being for it… but if you’re able to put together a lovely wedding and feel this kind of love from all the people who have shaped you and your fiance’s lives, I would say it’s a pretty excellent wedding.

This is not to knock anyone who has eloped, because I certainly see its benefits, but I just wanted to share this word of encouragement to my stressed-out brides. There is so much to look forward to! 

elopement - yes or no?
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Yes, this is so true, and I love how your fiancé thinks. He’s really adorable. If you are traditional, you have a budget, and you don’t have to nickel and dime; there’s nothing cooler than a fantastic wedding! I’m all in, and we will help you together with our excellent wedding experts and our articles, tips, and advice.

Yet, many modern brides simply don’t want to do some or even all the wedding traditions lately. If this is your case or you don’t have a big budget, I really suggest eloping and then just throw a big party afterward. You will have all those people you love and care about in one room together, but there won’t be a wedding price tag on everything.

I really feel like a wedding should be a wedding. Nothing short. And the wedding means gorgeous centerpieces, all the traditions, a huge cake and lots of food and beverages. Well, this is my belief, and you obviously could have a different one. If yes, please let us know in the comments below, and we might write another article about it.

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  1. Chelsea Sauve - Wandure

    Interesting perspective! To each their own with tackling their big day – honouring what feels best for them :)!

  2. Krizzia Scollon

    I know a lot of people who’s first choice was to elope because it’s more cost effective. I think it doesn’t really matter whether you elope or have a grand wedding cause what matters is the love and marriage and your spouse shares <3

  3. Prakhar Kasera

    Got my thoughts a bit clearer than before after reading this post, but still trying to figure out. Anyway, thanks!

  4. Lia

    Not that I’m planning a wedding or anything, but I see why it could be a difficult decision between the two. Maybe instead of eloping you just scale things down. I’ve been to a handful of backyard/park receptions with yard games and beer.

  5. Blair villanueva

    Elopement for my definition is like something you do when you got so drunk, you do drastic things you cant escape. I think if the couple knows that they deserve each other, they will plan the wedding proper, big or small.

    1. WMFteam108

      fortunately, it’s much different here in the USA ?

  6. Viano Dee

    Nice post. Personally, I’m a fan of big weddings but I love the idea of elopement (though not without parental consent). I like privacy.

  7. Sol Razo

    My idea of a wedding celebration is still traditional: invite close friends and relatives who have been a part of both of our journey and I want them to witness us as we start together a new journey. But looking at the practical side, I would just save every penny and invite a pastor with our best friends and immediate member of the family.

  8. Maysz

    I’ve never heard about Elopement before but now I have an idea what is all about nice post!

  9. Amanda

    Weddings dont have to be expensive! Be creative and you can still have a fantastic wedding on the smallest budget!

  10. Sarah

    I’m all for big, traditional weddings, but I’ve done that once now and if… IF I do it again it’ll probably be at a destination somewhere.

  11. Kathy Kenny Ngo

    I don’t think elopement is ideal especially when there are families involved. However, to each his own and so if that’s what makes you happy, then go for it.

  12. Prakhar Kasera

    I think elopement, yes or no, is to be judged separately for every situation.

  13. MJ

    Couples should do what works for them as long as they are happy, have chosen the right partner and take their vows seriously.
    XO, MJ