I just sent out many emails to our April and May brides. Going to fell asleep after a full day of phone calls and chats about one question – should I cancel my wedding because of coronavirus? Anyway, I decided to write this blog post before I expire 😉
As you know by now, yesterday, March 15, the CDC issued a recommendation to postpone gatherings of more than 50 people across the US for the next 8 weeks. So my day started with this text: “apparently, CDC came out saying to refrain from having gatherings with 50 or more people the next 8 weeks… I’m literally about to cry.” And at that moment, I knew that this unique news has left many couples scrambling and pondering the same questions.
For the brides who have to postpone or cancel all wedding-related events, I understand it’s tough. The stress, the finances, it’s all very overwhelming. At the end of the day, remember that by doing so, we are taking care of each other. Social distancing will literally save lives, and statistically speaking, it will also save the lives of your guests and loved ones. So as crappy as the situation may be, just remember, you did your part in helping humanity.
As I wanted to help, I also contacted some insurance companies regarding wedding insurance. You can imagine how busy they are. But I received a recommendation that you DO NOT purchase a new policy to specifically protect against the cancellation of a scheduled event because of coronavirus. Insurance policies contain exclusion “Any circumstances known to you or the honoree at the date of issue as likely to give rise to a cancellation.”
Are you wondering about vendors? I texted a few of our team members. Celebrity
wedding photographer Jan Freire said: Whatever you need, I’m here to help. I wanted to comfort my brides that I’ll do whatever it takes to make their weddings a success, whether that’s modifying it or rescheduling it. Their safety and making sure we figure out the best way to make their weddings memorable are my top priorities these days.
And I feel like when it’s over, we better start accepting that even Wednesday is a day for a wedding.”
Peter Kiral with
Kiral Artists said: We are in difficult times, and we are being called to be safe at home for the well-being of humanity, these temporary precautions are to prevent any major damages in the future, let’s be responsible. The good news is that everything will go back to normal sooner than what we think; that’s why we shouldn’t cancel our events, we should postpone them, so when the good times come we will be able to appreciate even more the time we spend to celebrate with our loved ones and never take it for granted.
I also wanted to bring some insight from real brides. Maria has been planning her wedding for the past 10 months. She said: Here is my perspective to help those who are struggling with having to cancel or postpone events!
This week my mom, who is also my best friend, and wedding planner in chief, passed away unexpectedly. I am utterly heartbroken, particularly when I think about having my wedding without her.
For those who have to think about postponing, I know it must be incredibly challenging after all the planning and effort and stress you have put into this one big day, but know it will still be the perfect day, as long as all of your loved ones are safe and healthy! Keeping your loved ones safe is worth anything in the world! As much as it sucks right now, when you have your big day with the most important people in your life there with you, in the end, it will all be worth it.
I just thought this might be a helpful perspective during a tough time for many brides, from someone who can’t have that dream of having my family whole and healthy at my wedding. The most important thing is marrying your rock, the most significant person in your life, and having the ones that mean most to you there to celebrate with you.
Lisa said: Things suck, but then things get better. I have faith that better things are ahead. Well, they can’t get much worse. We will get through this. I’m sure every one of you ladies has been through tough times and made it out stronger. This too, will pass.
Patricia: My wedding is May 30th and the CDC just advised a stop on gatherings of 50 or more for eight weeks, that’s 2 weeks before my wedding. I was hoping this would all be over by April, but I feel like it’s going to go well into the summer. In the worst-case scenario, our photographer goes with us to the courthouse. I have my dress, so I should be okay with that. I’m honestly just super sad about the fact that my people can’t be there, I am past worrying about the money.
Paula: My wedding is on May 2nd. I’m honestly just holding out and hoping for the best. I’m going to continue to plan as if this wasn’t happening and reevaluate about a month before. I’m also going to give my caterer a lower number than what I originally planned just in case. We sent out invitations about two weeks ago, and I’m just going to wait until the majority of them come in to make a final decision.
Simone: We just rebooked for April 3, 2021. We plan to get married on April 4 this year legally and will have our wedding/vow renewal one year later. You gotta have a sense of humor in all of this! Wishing all you postponing brides the best of luck, no one could have predicted this!
Andrea: We sent out our invites before this got serious. We finished most of the planning. I have been really stressed the past few days, but we have decided to keep our date unless we are not allowed to anymore. We realize we are going to have way fewer people, and I’m honestly okay with it. I’m going to get back to my planning in a few weeks and ride it out.
Our conclusion? I really like the idea of dividing the wedding ceremony from a wedding reception at this tough time. You can get married now and celebrate next year.
And once everything is over, we should start considering all weekdays as perfect wedding days, as there sure will be too many couples for only 52 weekends of 2021.
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